Most friendship apps ask what you like. We ask what you value, how you communicate, and what actually makes you feel close to someone, because the research points in a different direction than interests alone.
Why these questions, not others
Two of the most cited findings in relationship science shaped how we built this. Proximity and repeated contact are still the strongest predictors of who becomes friends with whom, not shared hobbies — which is why your area and how far you're genuinely willing to travel matter as much as anything else in the questionnaire. Self-disclosure that escalates naturally, revealing something real fairly early, creates closeness dramatically faster than surface-level talk — which is the exact logic behind why we ask you to actually reflect on yourself rather than just tick interest boxes.
Values and communication style over hobbies
Closeness depends less on what you share and more on whether the other person visibly understands and responds to it. That's why we ask how you communicate, what you need from a conversation, and how you show up for people, not just what you do on weekends. Two people who both love hiking can still feel like strangers. Two people who describe connection the same way rarely do.
Why reflections matter
After you meet, we ask how it actually went. This is not a formality. It is how the matching itself gets better over time. Every reflection tells us something we could not have known in advance: whether the qualities that looked compatible on paper actually translated into a good conversation in person. We use this signal, in aggregate and never to profile any individual, to continuously refine what we weigh and how.
Why we verify people
A matching system is only as good as the honesty of what goes into it. That's why we ask for real answers, not performative ones, and why we take real steps to confirm people are who they say they are before they're part of the matching pool. Bad data produces bad matches no matter how good the underlying method is. Verification is not about suspicion. It is about making sure the whole system stays worth trusting.